At times the single life can be harrowing for a girl. Waiting for the one you’re intended to be with takes a lot of patience -patience at times I, for one, have lacked. So, I’d like to share some thoughts and ideas while you wait for your Prince that have helped keep me strong and will hopefully do the same for you when it doesn’t seem like you can make it.
I would like to first say that my relationship with Christ has helped me in this area tremendously. He loves me unconditionally and so strongly that that alone has been enough to get me through at times. And since I haven’t had a father around that knew how to hold my heart, God has always been there with a love like un-other to take his place better than anyone else can. Don’t know Him? I would highly recommend it.
Also, I believe fully that there are no coincidences and that God already has the one for me picked out. He has everything already set; the day I meet him, the moment I know he’s the one, the time I marry him. Everything. This too helps to think about.
“Serenity and inner beauty come when we wait upon God. 'Waiting' like that is not merely wasting time.” Eva Burrows
Other little thoughts:
~He/she must really be something if it’s taking so long... Either that, or they’re not anything special at all right now, so they need more time.
~Often times, we are prepared and tested to see if WE are ready for THEM; that can mean it’s us not being ready that prevents it coming to pass. Think of this waiting period as a time for you to grow. Be it in your relationship with God or your patience or even both. And don’t rush it (I know, it’s easier said than done at times). You don’t want to be anything but ready when it happens.
~Enjoy being single while it lasts. Once you leave it behind to start a family, you won’t ever be able to go back.
~I once heard it said that every time you touch or kiss someone or are touched or kissed by someone, you leave a fingerprint on them as they do on you. If they turn out not to be the guy, when you do find the one you’re going to spend the rest of your life with, do you want all these prints from someone other than him on you? (Oh, and just so you know, distance relationships of any kind are no different in this area.) I don’t say this to lay guilt on anyone, just to warn you to be careful. Unfortunately, I know this is true from personal experience. Stand above it.
Concerning dealing with the impatience:
~If you struggle, make sure you are making better use of your time. Have hobbies and goals to keep you busy outside of work (though work, if enjoyed, can be a good means too). Fill in the gaps so you aren’t left with extra time on your hands to dwell on it. This can only serve to make matters worse.
~Also, if you still struggle, limit if not completely remove the amount of romantic influence in your life. If you can’t handle a novel or a movie or even a magazine without it amplifying the yearning inside, stay away from them. You don’t need anything weighing you down and ridding you of the time you have now for other more important things.
~Take this time to do what you’ve always wanted to. If you want to be a writer, take that first step! If you wish to learn how to paint, find classes you can take when you have time! If you want to take up an instrument, start looking for a teacher! Benjamin Franklin makes a good point, “If time be of all things the most precious, wasting time must be the greatest prodigality.” Make it worth your while!
On a final note, there is a neat song I recommend... It’s called Princes and Frogs, by the guys of Superchick. It’s not only funny and creative, but it’s a great way to help you wait productively -in a way you won’t regret.
“All Princes start as frogs, all gentlemen as dogs. Just wait until it’s plain to see, what we’re growing up to be. ‘Cause some frogs will still be frogs, and some dogs will still be dogs. But some boys can become men, just don’t kiss us 'til then.” ~Princes and Frogs, Superchick